When we move past labels like good and bad, we step into the power we have as adults to not just punish or praise children, but to teach, guide, and encourage them --- transforming stressful moments into the moments that bind us.
If we asked our children these three simple things daily in the way we parent, we just might get a closer look at each one's nature and stop deluding ourselves into thinking we are responsible for MAKING our children (fill-in-the-blank).
A group of actors, young and old, are audition for a commercial. They are all instructed to perform simple tasks but “like a girl.” Run like a girl. Kick like a girl. Throw like a girl.
How can we tell our children, "My love is yours... unconditionally. It really IS! I might not like what you are doing but I LOVE who you are. Always."? How do we ensure they both hear and believe this?